An Introduction To Spanking
Starters:
Before you begin any kind of spanking with your partner you should know beforehand if it is what he or she would like to do. Often times a little "coaxing" is needed to get started. More people are secretly into spanking then you might think. Best way to keep them interested and keep the fun going is to spank the correct way. After reading the below article, you will be well versed in the art of spanking and a whole new level of experiences will be added to your life. Don't forget to have a safety word, because there will be "Ouch!" yelled a few times. The safety word will give you a positive YES that he/she needs to stop or is really hurting.
What to use:
Spanking can be done with a paddle. (Hopefully a quality Woodrage spanking paddle) or with your hand. For starters, using your hand is best. That way you and your partner can get the feel for spanking and it can be more enjoyable. Soon you will want a paddle.
The first steps:
First thing you will need to do is get comfortable (both of you). Usually the "spankee" is across the lap of the "spanker". This is called "Over the knee position "OTK". The spanking can be done clothed or unclothed. All up to you, personally I prefer to see the spankee's bottom, but that's just me. You will need to warm up the area by rubbing in a circle and squeezing to get the blood flowing. If it's bare bottom then rub your hands together to warm them up first. Importantly DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS, you are in control. Asking, "Was that to hard?" will take away from the experience. Go by his/her reactions to what you are doing to see if they like it or not. This is the time to talk to them about why they are being spanked. The best reasons are made up ones to avoid any arguments. Or the standard (Your a bad girl........) Experiment with role-playing to make it fun. The warm up should take about 5 minuets to build anticipation.
The first spanks:
After the warm up, it's time to spank. Don't just wind up and smack that ass! You need to build up. This is where mistakes are made. You need to go slow at first. You want to aim for the thickest part of the cheeks. Do not hit the thighs or the tailbone. This will not be pleasant for either of you. Slap each cheek alternately back and fourth about 4 times. (left,right,left,right). End on the 5th spank with a harder smack.
How hard:
The speed of this can be slow or fast. Anything sensual needs to be taken slow to build that excitement. Use the amount of force you would use to clap your hands in applause. You can also use this to judge the force to use with a paddle. It's the anticipation of that 5th harder spank that makes spanking fun.
that excitement. Use the amount of force you would use to clap your hands in applause. You can also use this to judge the force to use with a paddle. It's the anticipation of that 5th harder spank that makes spanking fun.
Conclusion:
If you did the proper warm up and started slow, your partner should be giggling and very happy. If he/she doesn't yell out, or better yet if they moan with delight, then I strongly recommend that you spank them slightly harder. Take your time, and have fun. This is an art, after all!
Starters:
Before you begin any kind of spanking with your partner you should know beforehand if it is what he or she would like to do. Often times a little "coaxing" is needed to get started. More people are secretly into spanking then you might think. Best way to keep them interested and keep the fun going is to spank the correct way. After reading the below article, you will be well versed in the art of spanking and a whole new level of experiences will be added to your life. Don't forget to have a safety word, because there will be "Ouch!" yelled a few times. The safety word will give you a positive YES that he/she needs to stop or is really hurting.
What to use:
Spanking can be done with a paddle. (Hopefully a quality Woodrage spanking paddle) or with your hand. For starters, using your hand is best. That way you and your partner can get the feel for spanking and it can be more enjoyable. Soon you will want a paddle.
The first steps:
First thing you will need to do is get comfortable (both of you). Usually the "spankee" is across the lap of the "spanker". This is called "Over the knee position "OTK". The spanking can be done clothed or unclothed. All up to you, personally I prefer to see the spankee's bottom, but that's just me. You will need to warm up the area by rubbing in a circle and squeezing to get the blood flowing. If it's bare bottom then rub your hands together to warm them up first. Importantly DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS, you are in control. Asking, "Was that to hard?" will take away from the experience. Go by his/her reactions to what you are doing to see if they like it or not. This is the time to talk to them about why they are being spanked. The best reasons are made up ones to avoid any arguments. Or the standard (Your a bad girl........) Experiment with role-playing to make it fun. The warm up should take about 5 minuets to build anticipation.
The first spanks:
After the warm up, it's time to spank. Don't just wind up and smack that ass! You need to build up. This is where mistakes are made. You need to go slow at first. You want to aim for the thickest part of the cheeks. Do not hit the thighs or the tailbone. This will not be pleasant for either of you. Slap each cheek alternately back and fourth about 4 times. (left,right,left,right). End on the 5th spank with a harder smack.
How hard:
The speed of this can be slow or fast. Anything sensual needs to be taken slow to build that excitement. Use the amount of force you would use to clap your hands in applause. You can also use this to judge the force to use with a paddle. It's the anticipation of that 5th harder spank that makes spanking fun.
that excitement. Use the amount of force you would use to clap your hands in applause. You can also use this to judge the force to use with a paddle. It's the anticipation of that 5th harder spank that makes spanking fun.
Conclusion:
If you did the proper warm up and started slow, your partner should be giggling and very happy. If he/she doesn't yell out, or better yet if they moan with delight, then I strongly recommend that you spank them slightly harder. Take your time, and have fun. This is an art, after all!